Crib Sheets, Renovations + New Birth Plans
Crib sheets at last! And it really was
the simplest thing to turn these 2 yard cuts of fabric into fitted
crib sheets. I followed my Quilter's Crib Sheet tutorial to refresh
my memory and used elastic that was conveniently on hand.
These pale colored prints should pop
against the peach walls I'm planning for baby girl's nursery.
Fabrics are all from Bobbie Lou's Fabric Factory: Miniments in raw, All Paths in clear and Bed of Daisies.
Remember that we are adding onto our
house right now? Our current master will become the new nursery
after 1. we can move out of it into the newly built master and 2. we
complete some repairs on the emptied space. The contractors have
nearly finished their work on the addition, so my husband has started
painting. He'll be doing all the finishing on weekends and evenings: floors, trim, installing
the master bathroom, lights, etc. Still we think we'll be in the
master before we bring baby home about 10 weeks from now. Then baby
can live with us in the new master until Brandon can complete repairs
on the new nursery. Phew! All that to say, I've decided crib sheets
are all I'm going to sew for baby in advance. It's not too
motivating to make things without a room ready.
But how do you like those windows?
This is my first photoshoot in my new sewing room, which is part of
the addition. We enlarged my sewing space and separated it from the
rest of the house, so it's not part of our entry anymore. I was
super excited to include skylights in this room to bring light
specifically to the area where my design wall will be placed.
Crossing fingers I can photograph my works in process right on the
wall! Right now I have to move around my design wall in search of
decent light, scattering pieces that
fall off the wall as I go!
When the sewing room is done, you can
bet I'll be sharing pictures. In fact, maybe you'll be visiting
someday! The room is also designed to host weekend workshops for 8
students!!!
Now... about my birth plans. I've been
wanting to share some things with you, but it's such a complicated
topic. What follows are a bunch of personal opinions very much
influenced by my experiences. Please don't be offended! I respect
those who disagree. I just wish to share how my own perspectives
have changed on this topic.
On Monday my mom and I drove two hours to a hospital in Charleston, where I plan to deliver baby.
Until now I've been receiving maternity care at a local OB, but we
haven't been comfortable with their general lack of caution and disregard for testing recommended by a MFM, in view of my birth
history. Currently, I plan to deliver via induction at the hospital in
Charleston so that I don't go into labor two hours away at home. Now more
than ever we understand it is essential to be able to trust one's
medical team. We trust the team in Charleston, which is nationally
ranked for obstetrics and aggressive about evidenced-based care.
It's a completely different birth plan and a radically different
birth paradigm as compared to my previous three births.
My perspective on maternity care is so
different than it was prior to Eleni's traumatic birth! Before
Eleni, I gave birth naturally at home to both Aria and Liam under the
care of midwives. Those experiences were very positive and mostly
uncomplicated. You can read about my original birth perspectives in this post.
Eleni's severe birth injury and
ultimate death were due largely to medical negligence. She was born
by induction in a hospital, but my maternity care was done by a home
birth midwife and an overseeing OB, as required by South Carolina
law. I've had lots of time and many medical experts help me
understand what happened. For me, understanding what happened and
how it could have been prevented were very important for emotional healing. Even before we decided to have another child, I
began to reconsider my views on home birth. Would I still recommend
it to a friend? To my daughter? It was a hot topic with my local
friends, many of whom had wonderful home births themselves.
First, I have concluded that
out-of-hospital midwife care in the United States is very different
than that offered in some other developed countries. Many studies
evaluating the safety of home birth and/or midwife care are conducted
in European countries with excellent results... and very different
medical systems. Here in the U.S. laws impacting out-of-hospital
birth vary radically from state to state. In addition there are very
few areas where home birth midwives are well-integrated with the
support of local OB teams and hospitals. In our country there is
much antagonism between the camps. This, in my opinion, translates
to less accurate risk assessment and poor care in the event of
emergencies. Women and midwives fear giving up their control to the
ruling hospital/OB systems by asking for assistance, and may take
unnecessary risks to maintain autonomy.
I believe we in the U.S. should rely
solely on U.S. studies of home birth safety. The studies that I see
are mixed, with some showing there is not an increased risk to
mom/baby and others showing there is double the risk. The mixed
results could be due to the differences in local law and
care networks. I will tell you that there are more midwife attended and
planned out-of-hospital birthers in the Facebook community called
Hope for HIE, which is for babies like Eleni. More by far
than is average for the United States. That was something I noticed
right away and recently confirmed via poll.
So, where have I landed? I guess you
can tell. When I chose home birth before, I did so mostly
to improve my birth experience and protect my baby from unnecessary
interventions. Now I prioritize a healthy baby so very, very far
above either of those concerns that I would not only refuse to
deliver out-of-hospital, I would also choose a hospital with an
excellent NICU, just in case. The way I see it, unnecessary interventions
associated with hospital birth are generally detrimental to an
enjoyable birth experience or physically damaging in the short term
only. Compared to the possibility of preventing a lifetime of
suffering or all-out death via interventions that turn out to be
necessary.... give me an unnecessary c-section and a live baby any
day over a preventable birth injury. In short, I believe doctors do
have to do unnecessary interventions, including c-sections, to save
as many babies as is possible. And that's what I want, when it comes
to birth.
With this baby, we will opt for an
induction to guarantee the chance to deliver in an excellent hospital
with top-notch staff. I'm still hoping for a mostly drug-free
natural birth, but mostly I'm hoping for a healthy baby.
And, my friends? Not a one of them would have another home birth in our state after what happened to Eleni. Granted, all of us are extremely impacted by her singular story, but that's how we make most decisions in life - informed by data, but shaped even more by the people we love.